I have had situations pop up where someone who I don't know very well or someone who does not know the state of the marriage I left says something that is naively hurtful. For instance:
"Every child needs their father."
"Why would someone not see their child?"
"Does it bother him that you live far away?"
This is awkward for me each time it happens. Because what do you say to that without sounding completely defensive? It makes my momma bear hair stand up on the back of my neck.
1. Yes, children need their fathers-their healthy, non-violent fathers who are active in their lives through financial, emotional and physical support.
2. I have no idea. I can't imagine not seeing my child. But like my counselor says, "you can't make sense out of nonsense" and I will NEVER understand how he chooses to live his life (thank goodness for that).
3. The further away the better....
The end. I wish I could think of ways to say those things in the moment but I usually just give a short answer and try to move on.