There is just SO MUCH PAPERWORK. I have an entire expandable folder full of my legal documents. I have signed my name so many times. He never has. He defaulted on everything, so there was never even a signature. Much like bills and life, he just chose to ignore all legal proceedings. If you ignore it, it's not real....right? WRONG.
Now I'm in a new situation where I am having to recount in vivid detail what happened each instance of abuse. Not fun. But if the result is safety and protection, I will do whatever I have to do. It's frustrating to feel alone in the fighting process. There need to be some major changes made in how the court system handles situations of abuse and domestic violence. Each time I speak with someone on the phone, they act very confused as to why things are a big deal or why I'm fearful. Obviously there is not a lot of training on dealing with this sort of situation, but I am NOT ALONE. There are so many out there struggling with these same issues, banging their figurative heads against the wall in frustration. We try to advocate for ourselves while juggling solo parenthood, no child support, bills, life, jobs...it can be overwhelming!
I hope that somewhere down the line the experience I have gained in all of this helps someone else. I know that I've learned an immeasurable amount in the process. I look back at who I was when I left and I'm just so glad to see where I am now!
Now I'm in a new situation where I am having to recount in vivid detail what happened each instance of abuse. Not fun. But if the result is safety and protection, I will do whatever I have to do. It's frustrating to feel alone in the fighting process. There need to be some major changes made in how the court system handles situations of abuse and domestic violence. Each time I speak with someone on the phone, they act very confused as to why things are a big deal or why I'm fearful. Obviously there is not a lot of training on dealing with this sort of situation, but I am NOT ALONE. There are so many out there struggling with these same issues, banging their figurative heads against the wall in frustration. We try to advocate for ourselves while juggling solo parenthood, no child support, bills, life, jobs...it can be overwhelming!
I hope that somewhere down the line the experience I have gained in all of this helps someone else. I know that I've learned an immeasurable amount in the process. I look back at who I was when I left and I'm just so glad to see where I am now!